Wednesday, March 1, 2017

White Ribbon Day.. violence against women

For those of you who followed this blog, you may remember that we lost Steph's sister to domestic violence. "March 10th will mark the 4th anniversary of the day that Kim left us. Sometimes it seems like that day was just yesterday, and others it feels like I have not seen her smile or heard her laugh in 100 years. Time for that random act of kindness in Kim’s memory. On March 10th I hope you will consider doing that again. We live in a world where I think being kind is becoming more important than ever before, and less common".

White Ribbon Day is part of an international campaign called The White Ribbon Campaign. Designed especially with men in mind at the time, this was created by a handful of Canadian men in 1991 on the second anniversary of one man's massacre of fourteen women in Montreal. They began the White Ribbon Campaign to urge men to speak out against violence against women.

Sexual and domestic violence and their solutions are bi-partisan. In the current landscape of uncertainty regarding the progress we’ve made in terms of policy, networks of services and attitudes, we are calling on all men to speak out for respect, dignity and equity, for accountability and for values that promote healthy and positive masculinities.


At March 1, 2017 at 10:42 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jim I was not aware that your family had experienced such a tragedy. My sincere sympathy to you and Steph. When is this White Ribbon Day you mention?

At March 1, 2017 at 10:59 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Did not know you had lost someone to DV. No one ever seems to want to talk about this issue publicly. I applaud you for doing that. I have never heard of White Ribbon Day. When is it and how do I take part?

At March 1, 2017 at 11:13 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sorry for your family's loss. Was not aware you had gone threw this. I have the same question as someone else when is White Ribbon Day and how can I participate?

At March 1, 2017 at 11:27 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Did not know you had it in you to write something so touching as that opening paragraph. Don't know who Steph is, but assume she is family to you?

At March 1, 2017 at 11:29 AM , Blogger Jim Pillsbury said...

Today is White Ribbon Day. Events in Boston and on social media. I can attest to the absolute heart ache families suffer at the hands of abusers. Rich Parker (Kim's x) is doing 4 to 6 years in Shirley for other crimes he was convicted of relating to Kim. He has never been charged with her murder as the State Medical Examiners office has never determined how she died. Rich Parker had Kim cremated before the autopsy. White Ribbon day is a sad time in this household and reminds us all (men) that this has gone on to long. Thank you all for your kind words.
As of today over 700 people have RSVP'd for the 10th Annual White Ribbon Day Campaign.

Wednesday, March 1, 2017
1:00 PM
The Great Hall at Faneuil Hall: 4 South Market Building, Boston, MA 02109

2:30 PM Boston City Hall
Following the program, we will march up to Boston City Hall to raise a WRD Flag and celebrate with a reception.

If you haven't registered, please take a minute to
RSVP here:

Rain or shine, men and boys from across the Commonwealth, representing diverse communities, professions and backgrounds, will gather to make a public commitment to reimagine manhood, to promote safety and justice and to be part of the solution in ending violence against women and all gender-based violence.


If you cannot join us in person, participate through

Facebook Live!

Help broadcast the event to your friends. Show it during class and have a discussion. Use our "Reimagine Manhood: A Teaching and Action Guide."

The video will be on our WRD Facebook page for future reference.


At March 1, 2017 at 11:32 AM , Blogger Jim Pillsbury said...

Steph Deeley has been my best friend and partner for 10 years now. A patient brave soul she is to put up with me. I don't know what I'd do without her.

At March 1, 2017 at 11:40 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Geez Jim. Did not know you had it in you to say something so kind. She must be quite a woman. Thanks for posting this information about this day. Too late to get in on most of the activity now but will post something on my Facebook page about today. Surprised I have not heard more about this. It is a cause worth supporting

At March 1, 2017 at 12:01 PM , Blogger Jim Pillsbury said...

Now Now.. don't judge the book by it's cover.

At March 1, 2017 at 12:11 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Nice post. Good information. Sad story.

At March 1, 2017 at 1:48 PM , Anonymous Jason Anter said...

never heard of this thanks for posting

At March 1, 2017 at 3:58 PM , Anonymous Framingham Geek said...

Good post. Different from the norm, but important.

At March 1, 2017 at 4:00 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just Googled this Rich Parker guy out of curiosity. Bad dude and a firefighter with that air of entitlement. Sounds like your partner took him on and won good for her

At March 1, 2017 at 4:08 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

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At March 1, 2017 at 4:28 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hug your daughters. Then be sure they know that no one has the right to harm them. Then tell your sons that real men do not hit women. Could be the most important thing you tell them

At March 1, 2017 at 6:44 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Awesome post Mr. Pillsbury


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